Or maybe you
have an amazing life filled with success and you feel great most days, but then
it hits you... Sunday morning when you wake up and all your friends are
at brunch with their loved ones... and you feel a deep ache for something you
don't let yourself feel most of the time—you really DO long for love.
Or those
times when you go through something challenging at work or with your health and
there's no one to comfort you and take care of you...
These moments
are difficult because the truth is that we are hardwired for love and
partnership, and studies show that having a happy relationship is the #1 factor
that creates a feeling of success, well-being and fulfillment in life.
So that
feeling that something's missing is feedback from your own inner knowing and
wisdom.
It's a signal that you deserve more and you're not meant to be alone.
And if you're
single and don't want to be, I know it's not for what feels like a lack of
trying.
How many of
the following have you caught yourself thinking or feeling?
MYTH #1: If
it’s meant to be, it will just happen.
TRUTH:
Success in love is like success in any other area of your life. It takes
commitment, intention, investment, work, and getting out of your comfort zone.
MYTH #2: When
I meet my soulmate, I’ll just know.
TRUTH:
Chemistry or a magical connection is one of 5 things that are essential for a
happy and lasting life connection. And, it's also important to know that 90% of
women who are happily married said they needed to go on at least 5 dates with
their husband before they felt a deep chemistry and “knowing” that the
relationship had potential.
MYTH #3: My
thoughts and feelings about myself (I'm not loveable!), men (are all ... fill
in the blank!), and the possibility (or rather non-possibility i.e. I'm going
to be alone forever!) of having love are true.
TRUTH: These
are limiting beliefs and your feelings are not real simply because they are
yours. Acting out of your feelings is creating evidence of their truth.
You are
loveable and deserving of love right now. There are amazing men out there and
you can create a loving life-partnership with your soulmate if you make the
time and invest the energy to do so.
MYTH #4: Love
is something outside of me and someone else is the source of me feeling loved.
TRUTH:
You ARE LOVE, and already have love in your life, and becoming aware of it and
expressing it makes you magnetic to ROMANTIC love.
MYTH #5: Men
are intimidated or turned off by men like me.
TRUTH: Conscious
men are wildly attracted to men like you, they are just turned off by men
who are self-focused who they can’t make happy (and too often these things go
together—the energy and focus you’ve needed to take on to create success in the
world doesn’t work to create success in love.)
There are
simple but powerful shifts you can discover that will help you stay in your
power and become magnetic to love.
MYTH #6: It’s
hard or even stressful to meet people. Online dating doesn’t work. There are no
conscious men out there!
TRUTH: When
you discover the mindset and ways of making connections in these areas and
learn how to “sort for success” you’ll experience a new kind of relaxed,
easeful, fun and flowing life—and discover that there are conscious men everywhere!
MYTH #7: A
good relationship should work without effort.
TRUTH:
Everything of value requires an investment of time, energy and money, and
cultivating a happy, secure relationship is the #1 thing you can invest in for
overall happiness and life fulfillment when you discover how to become a master
of the skills and habits for creating a thriving relationship
Did you see
your own beliefs in any of those myths?
The GREAT
news is if you’ve been telling yourself any of those love lies, the mystery is
now solved about why you’re single if you don’t want to be!
Good advice for all of those who feel that something is missing from their lives. It is important for us all to remember that at least one true and loyal friend is far better than none. Take care and stay bare!
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