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Monday, April 4, 2016


When a ‘top’ treats a ‘bottom’ like a blowup doll among his friends how does it make you feel? Do you think too many tops out there refuse to acknowledge a bottom as anything other than a hole? 

Where’s the compassion out there? Don’t get me wrong. I know many gay LOVE to get pounded in the bedroom. But when a ‘top’ insists on treating a man that makes him a ‘top’ like nothing, what does that say about him? 


  1. If both tops and bottoms stop using porn as their teacher, this would not be an issue. For thanks to porn, too many tops believe that treating a bottom like nothing more than a hole instead of a human being is how they want to be treated. But at the same time, in addition to the low self-esteem from their life before coming out, porn teaches too many bottoms to further lower their self-esteem by making them believe that they have no right to demand better treatment.

    One reason I wanted to do while in the industry was to show better treatment of bottoms. But I got tired of fighting with porn companies (white and ethnic), so that was one reason that I eventually left. And now what you have are sites like, Titan Media, Raging Stallion, etc. inspiring more self-loathing bottoms than ever.

    And if you think I'm mistaken, check your hook-up site for bottoms, and see how many of their profiles talk about wanting to be "used and abused".

    1. You are absolutely right. it does come from porn.

  2. Wow, I never thought about it. Is valuable information. Makes a lot of seance.