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Thursday, January 30, 2014

¿CAN MY ONE ON ONE TIME HELP OR HURT MY RELATIONSHIP?

Let me just put this out there I really enjoy a good jack-off.  It’s not compulsive in any way, I just enjoy a bit of ‘me-time’.  I jack off about once a day and I pretty much always use porn to help me get off. I have sex too in a monogamous relationship of six years. The sex we have is good, REALLY good, but it’s nothing like the porn I watch.

In my jack-off sessions I tend to get off watching myvidster videos of ‘rugged, masculine men, having rough and ready encounters’. Within my relationship the sex is intimate and I get that physical and emotional connection. The other day I was talking to a friend about the sex that I have and during the conversation, my friend told me, ‘it’s a bit weird that you’re still jacking-off so much even though you have a healthy relationship’. It’s almost like there’s something missing from your sex-life. 


I beg to differ because from the time I knew myself, I was the only one giving me pleasure until I got curious about involving another person. So I put my ‘porn versus real-life’ situation to you, do you think masturbating even though you have a partner is unnecessary?

10 comments:

  1. No! Keep wanking! As you said, sometimes you need that "me time." Nothing wrong with it.

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  2. Nothing wrong with a lil self expression but be ready to always meet your partners needs

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  3. There's nothing with having some healthy sensual "me-time" in order to stay psychologically connected to who you are as a sexual creature. If you were like many other people who masturbate then chances are, over time you learned to use sexual self-pleasuring to discover some of your erogenous zones, to learn the limits of edging and how to stay in control of the PONR or "point of no return" - that which a man experiences before ejaculation and orgasm. The benefits of masturbation are huge - both for the person masturbating and for his/her sexual partner. As for using pornography, I see nothing wrong with that as a stimulus so long as you understand that porn is porn and is not YOUR reality. I place the use of porn to help one with sexual gratification along the same lines as one who has a mental sexual fantasy. Finally, if your partner is not threaten or made insecure with you jacking off /having some "me-time" or jacking off to porn, and things are still loving and hot between you two, then there's no issue.

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  4. That is a very interesting question and discussion. Thank you for putting it out there. Personally I think guys should always be free to jack off. I would say that a partner who tries to insist that his other does not jack off is just being unrealistic. Porn also seems to me good as a way of just enlarging one's horizons about sex. I think this topic is likely to be coming up on my blog, because somebody recently consulted me about his fears of being found out by his partner.

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    1. I can't wait to see what you say about this on your blog

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  5. I love that you put this out there! Being in a relationship and jacking-off are not exclusive, nor should they be. As RobFather-X points out, guys learn a lot from masturbation that helps them in their partnered sexual encounters. My wife has always known that I whack off and she's never had a problem with it. Issues with spouses (or partners) only crop up when they feel threatened by it. There's no reason to feel threatened by a partner spending some 'me time' and not having to concern him/her self with pleasuring or pleasing anyone else.

    BTW - Thank you for the comments you leave on my blog! They are greatly appreciated!

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    1. thanks for stopping by and I LOVE your blog

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