FINDING YOUR EQUAL...

Sometimes we
want LOVE so bad that we will do
just anything to get OR keep it.
From what I know about relationships, most of us either stay with someone in
the HOPES that he/she will learn to LOVE us OR we run from here to there LOOKING
for something to stick. And in the interim we are here fighting what seems to insurmountable
odds that just get the better of us. ARE
WE DOOMED TO FAIL BECAUSE THIS IS JUST THE WAY LOVE N’ LIFE GOES OR COULD IT BE
SOMETHING ELSE? I say that it all of these and SO much more. However, I think that the main thing we are NOT looking @ is the fact that we are NOT SEEKING persons that are OUR
equal. It is my PERSONAL belief that
it is VITALLY important to date
someone who's in your league and I don't mean that in a snobbish way. I say
this because until recently, my relationships were very one-sided. And I like
to think of myself as educated, a risk taker, very funny and a person who
always challenges himself, along with being a creative spirit. But I found
myself dating men I had nothing in common with. THANK GOD MOST OF THEM NEVER MADE IT TO THAT PLACE…Nonetheless, I
would be in these relationships where we were COMPLETE opposites when it came to education, taste in movies and
music, and careers and though they MOSTLY
had NO creative aspirations, they didn’t
have ANY aspirations @ all. Often, we couldn't even hold a conversation that
lasted over 5 minutes. However they were not lacking in some attributes that I
found attractive like being romantic, kind, and passionate but still it wasn't
enough to build into anything permanent. After years of this routine, I had to
stop and process. WAS IT ME? WHAT AM I
DOING WRONG? WHEN AM I GOING TO GET WHAT I DESERVE? HOW IS THAT I KEEP
ATTRACTING MEN THAT I HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON WITH? I had no problems with my
friends. We had a lot in common, sometimes talking for hours at a time. The
answer came to me…in order for me to find happiness in my relationships; I
needed to find the medium. Hence I had to STOP
dating who could NEVER measure
up and date men that had the qualities that I value in life. I found that I
need to be challenged in order for me grow and the men that I’ve met didn’t
give the RIGHT kind of challenge
that I needed. Hence dating someone who is not your equal should never be an
option. If you're not careful, you can end up with someone who is not OR will never be in the same place you
are. SO NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOUR
EQUAL…WHILE THIS MAY BE SEEN AS CONCEITED OR ARROGANT, CHOOSING TO FIND YOUR
EQUAL IS THE MOST POWERFUL ACT OF LOVE THERE IS…