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Monday, May 22, 2017

JUS' E-MAIL ME: ¿GAY ROMANCE OR GAY BROMANCE?

I've liked this guy for a while - let's call him Jamal. At the beginning I was very uncomfortable with the idea of trying to communicate with him. I summoned up a lot of courage to do it. I tried to make a move, but his response was cold—actually, a flat-out "No!" I was crushed, but a month went by and I got over it.

 I tried hanging out with him as a friend, but he wouldn't respond to most of my texts. I just assumed he was not interested in any sort of relationship, romantic or friendly.

Eventually I moved on and started to meet other guys and hanging out with them (not too many!). None of them really wanted anything serious, and neither caught my attention that much.
I kept seeing them and learned to enjoy the moments.

Then suddenly things changed completely. Jamal came back on the scene and started giving me lots of attention. I don't really know how it happened but we started to see each other every day, talk on the phone, text, and go to parties together—everything. We have endless walks along the neighbourhood, play basketball together, and go to the bar on the corner. Sometimes we found ourselves having discussions about society and about our studies, that lasted the whole night. And, our line of thought was so much in common!

I started to see it as a very good bromance, but nothing more. It was clear after some time I was having the makings of a good friendship, in which he wanted to take the lead. And I found that I was really 'ok' with that.

At this point, I am really confused and don't know where this relationship is going. Is he just comfortable with the friendship we have, or is he looking for more?

Have you ever been in this situation? 

What are your thoughts?

What advice would you give this person?

1 comment:

  1. A GAY BROMANCE, WOULD BE A GREAT THING TO HAVE. I WOULD BE PERFECTLY FINE WITH THAT.

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