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I am whatever YOU think I am until YOU get to KNOW me. This is true for everyone else too, of course.. so don't make assumptions about anyone or pass judgment; ask questions. You might just make a new friend.


Thursday, October 10, 2013


Do you ever notice how many people wish the best for others and always say that they deserve it?  But in the same breath they may state something like, “I could never have what he has” or “I wish I could do what she did.”

A tendency exists in many, me included at times, to berate one’s own abilities and settling for less than what we deserve.  I know now when I catch myself doing it, I quickly state, “no you are wrong, you can do whatever you want to do, when you want to do it!  I deserve no less than the best!”

In many cases, the root cause of the self-berating is a less than good self image.  If we all could see the inherent potential that lies in each of us, and truly believe it was there for the picking, at any time we willed to do so, how many of us would berate ourselves and our abilities a lot less?

It saddens me when people settle for less than what they deserve because they don’t have a good sense of self. I pray to the universe that they awaken someday and realize they are better than what they think they are.

This is no truer than when one is in the closet… yes that damn closet again!  It has been the focus of many an article I write, but being in the closet due to fear of the unknown and a self image grounded in what others think, prevents people from not settling for less than what they deserve.

Incessantly closeted individuals hear from others how terrible being gay is or that it is sinful and against God’s wishes.  Naturally hearing such horrible things directly impacts how one sees themselves and is especially detrimental if their self image is based on what others think rather than on what they think of themselves.

Make a decision to celebrate who you are and your potential contributions to society as an openly queer individual.  There is no greater feeling when one can, to borrow a quote from the Matrix, “know thyself.”

When one’s true essence is firmly grounded within, there is no stopping the power of the individual to obtain anything they want.  Settling for less than what is deserved becomes no longer an option.


On this day we commit to kicking ourselves in the butt to take action on goals we've set and not achieved, actions we've committed to and not taken, promises we've made and not kept, excuses we've created that have us stalled and difficulties we've faced and not overcome. This is the day we get our butts in gear and move forward in our lives. No butts about it!


Puerto Rican boxer Orlando “The Phenomenon” Cruz says he's ready for Saturday's world title fight.

The 32-year-old Cruz is training to fight Mexico's Orlando Salido for the vacant WBO featherweight title. The bout will take place at the Thomas & Mack Center in Las Vegas.

In remarks to the UK's The Independent, Cruz, who came out last year, said that he was ready to make history as the world's first openly gay boxer to win a world title. But win or lose, Cruz will still go down in history as the first openly gay boxer to fight for a world title.

“I now feel free to just get on with the boxing,” Cruz said. “I'm not fighting two opponents any longer and that is a great relief. The nights of staying awake and crying are over.”

Cruz has dedicated the upcoming fight to Emile Griffith, one the greatest boxers in history. Griffith, who died over the summer in New York, acknowledged that he was bisexual in an interview with Sports Illustrated.

“I like men and women both,” he said. “But I don't like that word: homosexual, gay or faggot. I don't know what I am. I love men and women the same, but if you ask me which his better … I like women.”

Salido said that he wasn't concerned about Cruz's sexual orientation.

“Gay, so what?” he said. “We are just two fighters and we both want to win the world title.”



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