¿DATE HIM OR HIS RESUME?

You are a single on-the-rise,
working your way up in the ranks,
you’re happy and pursuing your dreams to the fullest. The majority of your days
are spent working and lets face it there aren't that many available men in
sight at your high-powered workplace. But there’s this one man at your job that
has your undivided attention: his scent drives you crazy, his charming smile
gives you butterflies, and his skin tone beautiful. You know, deep
down, you’re single in-part because you’re so picky … yet you can’t find a flaw
on this man. He approaches you nearly everyday with small talk and makes sure he
slides in a compliment or two about your outfit, even on your
worst days he acknowledges you. On top of all his compliments and nice
gestures he leaves you with a package EVERY single time you see him.

That package … that guaranteed
package … happens to come from the company mail room … that’s because he’s a
mail room clerk. Affectionately known as the company “delivery boy!”

The only thing standing between you
and him is his résumé. The chemistry between you and him is undeniable. But
your standards won’t let you venture beyond fantasizing about the idea of you
and him making passionate love in a hot and steamy mail room. You've played
this scene out thousands of times in your head … but in reality you quiver at
the thought of showing up at the company Christmas party with him. Not because
you’re shallow but because you truly desire to be paired with your equal on a
career level, among other things.

You want the best for you and your top priority is having a man
that‘s either your equal or above your standards. That’s fair. You have and
maintain a certain standard of living, a standard of income, a standard of
intelligence, and your standard of a man is that he meet you halfway or exceed
your standards. It’s
that simple. You’ve heard the argument time-and-time again “your standards are
unrealistic,” but you refuse to buy-in to the naysayers because you, yourself,
are living these “unrealistic” standards of having a well-paying job, a solid
education, and the resources needed to live comfortably. You know your equal is
out there and you feel no pressure what so ever to explain that a man must meet
you where you are (mentally, spiritually, and financially too!).

On paper (his
résumé) as a mail room clerk can’t compare to your achievements, but, as a man,
he’s everything else you desire. This is a challenge that many of we gay men face, the choice
between dating him OR dating his résumé.