I AM...

I am whatever YOU think I am until YOU get to KNOW me. This is true for everyone else too, of course.. so don't make assumptions about anyone or pass judgment; ask questions. You might just make a new friend.


Wednesday, June 22, 2011


When it comes to dating and relationships, gay men have asked the same question over and over when they meet a guy they like: “does he like me?” No matter his age or status he starts terrorizing friends and associates who are connected to the ‘apple’ of his eye. The minute he asks, “Does he like me?” isn’t he basically giving away his power without even realizing it?

I know it is a natural characteristic for us to take on, but think of it like this, when you get to make a connection with the man you seek to date, would you be yourself if you are caught up with wondering if he likes you? In the world of dating, isn't that the whole point in getting to know someone means you NEED to be yourself? How about instead of pondering this age old gay question you flip the script and ask do you like him? Is he someone you can build a till death do us part life with?

I’ve found that when I stopped worrying whether a guy liked me or not, I started being myself and I end up with many men that liked me. The funny thing is, I didn't like many of them after all. I found they were actually spending time trying to get me to like them instead of just being themselves. I've been on both sides of this situation. And let me tell you, if you give yourself credit, you wouldn’t bother your friends with whether the boy you like likes you or not. After all can the how will I know (shout out to Whitney) of it all really be known?



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