One of the most difficult challenges in life is learning not to take things to
heart and hold on to it. Especially when our lives is so hard and many of us
are very sensitive. This can be overwhelming and unproductive and throws us off
balance on a regular basis. When we are feeling criticized or attacked from the
world beyond our community, it becomes very difficult for us to recover
ourselves so that we can continue to speak and act our truth. This is when we
would do well to remember the old saying about letting certain things roll off
us, like water off a duck's back.
Most of the time, the attacks and criticisms of others have much more to do
with them and how they are feeling than with us. If we get caught up in trying
to adjust ourselves to other people's negative energy, we lose touch with our
core. In fact, in a positive light, these slings and arrows offer us the
opportunity to strengthen our core sense of self, and to learn to dodge and
deflect other people's misdirected negativity. The more we do this, the more we
are able to discern what belongs to us and what belongs to other people. With
practice, we become masters of our energetic integrity, refusing to serve as
targets for the disowned anger and frustration of the people around us.
Eventually, we will be able to hear the feedback that others have to offer,
taking in anything that might actually be constructive, and releasing that
which has nothing to do with us. First, though, we tend ourselves
compassionately by recognizing when we can't take something in from the outside
without hurting ourselves. This is when we make like a duck, shaking it off and
letting it roll off our back as we continue our way in the world.
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