Everyone loves a love story, but
few people like to talk about the moment Cupid took his arrow back.
Much is
written and romanticized about falling in love. People talk about that moment
they were stuck by a thunder bolt or hit by Cupid’s arrow: the day their life
changed forever.
It’s rare to
hear about the flipside: The emotional sucker punch when Cupid rudely pulls
that arrow back out.
The pantheon
of pop is built upon heartbreak songs, but those are usually from the viewpoint
of the person who’s been dumped. What about that moment when you realize you
don’t love that someone anymore?
In a world
that says love is all that matters, falling out of love can feel like failure.
The reason we
may not recall those moments of falling out of love is because it can take some
time before we act upon them.
Maybe we at
first deny it, or we think it’s a blip and things will go back to the way they
were?
Or we’re just
cowardly and can’t bring ourselves to act. Perhaps there will be wider
ramifications for families, children, others, etc.
Falling out
of love can be messy and painful. It can prompt guilt and shame. In a world
that says love is all that matters, falling out of love can feel like failure.
Perhaps it’s not surprising we don’t talk about it so much.
But it
happens everyday. And prolonging the split only draws out the process.
If you know you’ve fallen out
of love with someone, and that you don’t have a future together, isn’t it
better to act sooner rather than later?
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