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I am whatever YOU think I am until YOU get to KNOW me. This is true for everyone else too, of course.. so don't make assumptions about anyone or pass judgment; ask questions. You might just make a new friend.


Tuesday, July 28, 2009


The Internet has become a breeding ground for people to lie about everything and one has to be careful. Just because it looks good doesn't mean that is what you are going to get when you meet.The picture is HOT!!! The conversation is flowing and he has just offered to come over your house. You are ready to get some serious action going. You give him your address and in twenty minutes exactly as he promised, Mr. Right Now is at your door. You open it and all hell breaks loose. Your fantasy man is nothing like the picture or as he described himself. To make matters worse, he is trying to act as if pictures were recent but just have slacked off from the gym in a few weeks, but you know that gaining 50 pounds in that span of time is not possible. This connection is not going to happen at all. Pissed at what has transpired, you vow not to use the internet to hookup. Could you have saved yourself the hassle? So here is how you can alleviate the games that come with online hook ups with these questions.

  • HOW RECENT IS YOUR PICTURE? Online dating is about cutting to the truth. And that truth begins with the way people portray themselves. Asking this question will let you know how long it's been since the picture was taken. Generally, people should update their pictures every 6 months unless they have gained weight or changed physically. If either one is the case then the person needs to update ASAP! If the response to this question is, "This picture is a year old but my friends tell me that I look the same". Then ask for a recent picture and don't meet the guy without getting one. Yes this may seem like a harsh request but when you have driven an hour to meet someone that clearly had a deceptive picture, you will value this advice.

  • DO YOU LOOK LIKE YOUR PICTURE? This question may seem like the same but it clarifies the first. I have meet men that have had recent pictures but decided to shave their head, started to grow twists, gained some weight recently , etc. My goal is to find out if I am going to get exactly what I am talking too at the moment. If you are dealing with a legit person, he will tell you if there have been since the last picture was taken.

  • DO YOU LIVE ALONE? I am not a fan of room mates. Men have confided in me that they have gone to meet men only to find out that the "mate" was an ex-lover. If you are hosting, then be prepared to let people know if there are others that share your space. Understand that many people are freaked out to some level about meeting anonymously. For them to come to your house and find it packed with people, elevates their fear. Keeping safety in mind I offer this advice, do not visit anyone on a first meeting that has a room mate. Meet in a public place or have him visit your home.

  • HOW OLD ARE YOU? Some guys online have two ages: the Interntet Age & the Real Age. Your job is to find out the real one. This may not be a major issue for some but imagine driving two hours to meet a man that has a picture and age that says he's 42. When you meet him, he tells you that is really 57. It's obvious that he's older but you are now pissed because you didn't get the facts. Some people may lie about the questions that we suggest you ask. Always let you potential hookups know that if anything is false when you meet that nothing is going to happen. The response will either be favorable or communication will stop. Either way you would have saved yourself the hassle. Use these questions and watch your connections improve.


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