I AM...

I am whatever YOU think I am until YOU get to KNOW me. This is true for everyone else too, of course.. so don't make assumptions about anyone or pass judgment; ask questions. You might just make a new friend.


Wednesday, June 18, 2008


As I sit and write this entry, I realize that what I am going to say will bring up suppressed emotions. However, that is not my intention, nor am I being insensitive to what others have been through in life. Moreover, I know that what I am about to say exists in both the over-all gay community as well as with the heterosexual community; however, I am focusing specifically on GAY community. I was recently talking to a friend of mine about going to therapy as he was naturally struggling with the fact that he was shot by two men who he or not know. He told me how wonderful it is to have someone like myself to talk and he wished that he could get more of that from other persons in his life. He further went on to say that, it is nice to have a real opportunity to talk about himself AND working through his internal issues with someone without the fear of being judged is very therapeutic. After our conversation, I thought about all the men that I have dated, and I realized that practically all of them needed some form of therapy. So many of us are dealing things such as rape AND OR molestation when we were children and those things were NEVER dealt with. In addition, there are psychological issues of dealing with an unaccepting father or father figure, or mother of their homosexuality, depression, internalize homophobia, as well as society's homophobia, and issues with the church and anxiety about the bible. So many of us have experienced unhealthy relationships to the extend that we are withdrawn from friends, love ones and ourselves. When we have been hurt N’ abuse we have to take care of ourselves by going to see a therapist. I know that SO many of us feel that only crazy folks do that, but it is quite the opposite. One goes to therapy so they do not end going crazy. This simply means that you have decided to STOP LETTING PEOPLE PUT TRASH IN YOU! Tell me this, when you went to bad last night do you remember what you were thinking about? When you woke up this morning, do you remember the first thoughts to enter your mind? As you were getting dressed this morning, do you remember what you were thinking about? I have learned that often times we spend much of our awakening moments thinking about things we cannot change. We worry ourselves to sleep and wake up the next day still worrying. Whether you realize it or not, your worrying has not brought you any closer to resolving the matter. Moreover, this is where therapy can help. IT AMAZES ME TO SEE HOW WE SPEND OUR LIVES. WE DO SO MANY THINGS TRYING TO IMPRESS THOSE WE DO NOT LIKE OR WHO DON’T LIKE US & INVEST THINGS THAT BREAK US DOWN. HOWEVER, IF WE REALLY WANT TO PROSPER WE NEED TO TAKE A HOLD OF OURSELVES & PLACE OURSELVES ON THAT ROAD.


Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...