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Sunday, September 9, 2012


Add this to
your gaydar: a new report in Live Science says that you
can tell a person's sexual orientation from their eyes. Pupils, that is. According to Stephanie Pappas, a new study finds that
pupil dilation is an accurate indicator of sexual orientation. When people look
at erotic images and become aroused, their pupils open up in an unconscious
reaction, which gave researchers a much easier way to to study orientation and
arousal without traditionally invasive blood flow to the genital measurements.

Researcher Ritch Savin-Williams, a
developmental psychologist at Cornell University, says the new study is the
first large-scale experiment to show that pupil dilation matches what people
report feeling aroused by.

"So if a man says he's straight,
his eyes are dilating towards women," Savin-Williams told Live
. "And the opposite with gay men, their eyes are dilating to

Savin-Willims told Live
 that the pupils dilate slightly in response to any exciting or
interesting stimulus, a sign that the autonomic nervous system — the system
that controls involuntary actions like pulse and breathing — is ramping up.

Savin-Williams and fellow researcher
Gerulf Rieger had 325 men and women who idetified as gay, straight, or bisexual
watch one-minute videos of a man masturbating, a woman masturbating, and
neutral landscape scenes while a camera measured tiny changes in their pupil

The results, according to Live
, showed that pupil dilation matches the pattern seen in genital
arousal studies. In men, this pattern is generally straightforward: Straight
men respond to sexual images of women; gay men to sexual images of men; and
bisexual men to both men and women. But women's responses were more complex,
said Savin-Wiliams, because while lesbians responded to images of other women,
straight women "dilate basically equally in response to erotic images of
both sexes, despite reporting feelings of arousal for men and not women."

Whether there's a host of closeted
bisexual women or another evolutionary answer to this straight girl dilation,
it gives researchers a complex result to try to unravel.

To read the full study, visit Live Science.



Pleasure is
primarily associated with the physical. It is solely in the realm of the
mundane plane. Though HETEROSEXUALS do, HOMOSEXUALS do not interpret pleasure
as love itself, only as a limited aspect of it.

The emotional
letting associated with pleasure is extremely ephemeral and can be reduced to a
quantitative accumulation, in that its "lasting" achievement is
marked by a necessary repetition of physical acts which are a measure of its
efficacy and longevity. Hedonism is it in its most refined quality.

Happiness, on
the other hand, is mainly felt in the psycho-spiritual realm. It is, if you
will, an otherworldly state of being and, often, can exist in an individual
over a greatly extended period of time, if not a lifetime. It is a qualitative
phenomenon that, once becoming one with it, is not subject to the vagaries of
time or ephemeral physical sensations.

These experiences, correctly
given and received, only serve to enhance its presence and increase the level
of one's awareness of self and reciprocal obligation to others. Selfless love
and godlikeness are its finest manifestations.


About The Movie:

Set in the
late '60s, Sparkle tells the story of three sisters from middle-class Detroit who
form a girl group sort of like the Supremes. They're astoundingly talented,
they want to be famous, and at one point they get their shot at a major deal
with Columbia Records. But all sorts of things keep getting in the way, like an
abusive, coke-sniffing celebrity boyfriend — what happens to him will
leave your jaw on the floor — and, more than that, their oppressively uptight
church-lady mother, played with teasing confidence and force by Whitney Houston
in her final screen role.

The movie is a remake of the 1976 ersatz-Supremes Hollywood fable
that starred Irene Cara, and the earlier film's setting — the late '50s and
early '60s — made sense. 

What Is Good About The Movie:

Whitney Houston's performance proves that this could have been the first step not merely in a comeback but in a major re-invention. She had the instincts of a superb character actress.

It is
impossible to watch this movie and
not relate its story to the life of Whitney Houston. Whitney 
is not technically the star of the movie, but her rendition of “His
Eye Is on the Sparrow”
 cemented her prescence. Though her vocal stamina was considerably diminished, her rendition of that gospel
standard gives “Sparkle” much of its heart

The three sisters are each cut from a very different cloth. The
quietly ambitious Sparkle, a brilliant songwriter,
who proves to
be a 
lot like Irene Cara — that is, she's pretty in a slightly
pained way and wholesomely sincere to the point of being a bit boring. The
whippersnapper Dolores (Tika Sumpter) mostly stays in the background, except
when she explodes in moments of vengeful high dudgeon. And then there's the
sister known, literally, as Sister, who's the star of the group and is played
by the ravishingly sexy and accomplished British actress Carmen Ejogo. The truth is that whenever Sister is on
screen, we're a little unsure why the movie is named after anyone else.

Among the men hovering around the
trio, by far the most developed character is Sister’s abusive boyfriend and
future husband, Satin (Mike Epps), a boozing, coke-snorting stand-up comic
whose routines are put-downs of black people. As the Black Power movement
gathers force, audiences are beginning to turn on him, and he takes his
frustration and fury out on Sister, who comes to rehearsals with black eyes and
in one scene is beaten with a belt. Satin’s dramatic counterweight is Stix (Derek Luke), Sparkle’s on-again, off-again

What Is Bad About The Movie:

Jordan Sparks is not much of an
actress. Or at least her character, as conceived, is so innocent that she
doesn’t seem fully aware of the melodramas swirling around her. But @ the end of the movie, during her solo
concert debut with a full gospel choir, to a packed house, she delivers. 

The trouble with Sparkle isn't
that it's overwrought (that's what's sometimes fun about it). It's that
everything in the movie is derivative and third-hand: a copy of a copy. Though I can't remember the original I saw as a child this movie felt as if it has been fed through a strainer, with bits and pieces squeezed
out of a dozen other, better movies (What's Love Got to Do With ItLady
Sings the Blues
, and Dreamgirls, to name just a few). 

Overall Grade:



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