I AM...

I am whatever YOU think I am until YOU get to KNOW me. This is true for everyone else too, of course.. so don't make assumptions about anyone or pass judgment; ask questions. You might just make a new friend.


Tuesday, November 25, 2008


  1. STOP LETTING YOUR APPEARANCE BE AN EXCUSE TO HIDE…Have you ever seen a nice gentleman exchange contact with someone you wouldn’t give the time of day? That’s because the art of seduction has a lot more to do with social skills than with naked physical attraction. It’s not 30 pounds you need to lose to pick up more men—it’s your inner fears.

  2. APPROACH A LOT OF MEN…To get started in the pick-up game, you need to go where men are and learn to approach them. And not just one or two guys, but many guys. If you can’t strike up a conversation, you don’t have a chance to pick up and eventually seduce someone you’re attracted to.

  3. DON’T HESITATE…Nothing conveys indecision and nervousness like hesitation. Indecision and nervousness are not attractive traits. So practice the three-second rule: train yourself to approach your target within three seconds of seeing him.

  4. LEARN SOME APPROACHES…An approach is an excuse— any excuse— to start a conversation with someone: HOW DO I GET TO THE CAFÉ FROM HERE? Or THERE’S SOME LINT ON YOUR COLLAR. However the easiest of all approaches is simply to smile and say HI. Forget the cheesy pick lines, they’re phony, convey too much sexual interest, and leave you no place to take the conversation.

  5. HAVE AN OPENER…Once you've exchanged a few words develop openers or standard conversational ploys that will attract your target. Try something startling: THAT WASN’T YOUR CAR ON FIRE IN THE PARKING LOT. WAS IT? DID YOU SEE THOSE TWO GUYS FIGHTING OUTSIDE? Or get an opinion: HEY, CAN I ASK YOU A QUESTION? OR THIS GUY I KNOW…Develop your opener into a little routine by adding vivid details and get your target involved and keep him engaged until he gives signs of starting to relax.

  6. LEARN DISINTERESTED INTEREST…Keep him off balance when he suspects you’re trying to pick him up. This allows time for his attraction to develop. Keep talking in a friendly way while pretending you’re not really that interested sexually.

  7. DON’T COMPLIMENT HIM…Since compliments like I LOVE YOUR SMILE give away your attraction; throw them in the dust bin with the pick-up lines. Instead, learn to neg. Negging is the art of giving a half-compliment, setting up a dissonance in your pick-up target. Examples: I LOVE YOUR SMILE, ARE YOU WEARING BRACES? THAT’S A NICE SHIRT; DID YOU GET IT @ SO & SO? The neg should always sound friendly AND positive and only subliminally be insulting. Negs excite your subject by sending contradictory signals spinning in his brain and creating excitement he will be intrigued to resolve.

  8. DEMONSTRATE YOUR SOCIAL VALUE…When you meet a guy, don’t stop talking, just stop talking aimlessly. Learn to be funny and entertaining and cast yourself in a positive light in the stories you tell. TELL HIM ABOUT THE TIME CHASED AWAY A SNAKE or HOW GREAT YOUR NEW GYM ROUTINE IS MAKING YOU FEEL. Please make sure that you talk about ex-boyfriends OR hang a friend around your shoulder to demonstrate that others think you’re attractive. In other words, give him enough ammunition to justify an attracted toward you. Once an attraction develops, you’ll see the signals in his eyes and body language.

  9. TOUCH…Without touching there is no sex. To get the ball rolling, touch early and often. Make sure your touches are sensual and motivating, not crude sexual pawing. Examine his cool wristwatch. Flatten his mussed-up collar. Read his palm. Your fleeting touches will leave him begging for more.

  10. ISOLATE, MOVE & DEVELOP RAPPORT…@ some point you hope to have this man in your life. So to accelerate the process you need to lead him to a neutral location away from his friends. Continue developing rapport and interest. Invite him to a quiet corner of the bar, outside for a breath of air or to a nearby eatery. Then take it from there.


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