SELF-AWARENESS

"Therefore, we cannot take our thoughts for granted. We must critically examine them. We must costantly strive to become aware of what we are exposed to and decide ourselves whether or not we want to accept it."

Hunter Havelin Adams III

"African Observers of the Universe: The Sirius Question"

WNBA: FIRST PRO LEAGUE TO MARKET TO GAY COMMUNITY

The WNBA on Wednesday announced a campaign to market itself to the LGBT community.

The announcement makes the WNBA the first professional sports league to mount such an effort.

“The WNBA welcomes all fans, athletes and partners to our game,” WNBA President Laurel J. Richie said in a written statement. “These beliefs unite the 12 teams of the WNBA and we are very excited to introduce the WNBA Pride platform which celebrates acceptance and inclusion. The WNBA takes great pride in working with extraordinary partners who share these values, and we are so grateful to our presenting partner COVERGIRL along with ESPN, GLSEN and GLAAD for joining the WNBA on this important initiative.”

The league launched WNBA.com/pride, a site devoted to Pride content, and announced a nationally televised pride game between Tulsa and Chicago to take place Sunday, June 22.

Openly gay Brittney Griner of the Phoenix Mercury said she was planning to wear rainbow-colored shoes during games during the month of June.

“We'll pave the way and show it's fine and there's nothing wrong with it. More sports need to do it. It's 2014, it's about time,” Griner told the AP.

SOURCE: ON TOP MAG

HAPPY EARTH~DAY BABES!!!!

HELP ME WISH MY OTHER HALF A HAPPY EARTH~DAY!

THE DAHL HAUS PRESENTS: MAY 2014 STIFF ONES

MAY IS MASTURBATION MONTH!

¿ARE THE TOP/BOTTOM ROLES KEEPING US FROM EXPERIENCING REAL LOVE?

I always wonder why many of us let sexual roles define who we are and even our relationships. Sex is important; I get it, but is it that important that we let each other’s sexual role determine whether or not we should even begin to establish a relationship in the first place?  We've all been asked and have asked the question “Are you a top or bottom?”  I’ll admit that this question is pretty necessary when hooking up with someone for casual sex or a one night stand, because after all we do have our PREFERENCES, and when we are looking for a hookup, we know what we want.  However, should this even be a question, or better yet, a determining factor when pursuing a serious relationship with someone?  Let’s not even get into the fact that the question is always posed (if even in your head), which one is doing the fucking when seeing a couple together.  Are we not more than our “role” in the bedroom?

When you are in a relationship why even get into sexual roles?  Lovemaking with your other half should be about enjoying each other’s body from head to toe, not who is sticking who. I know you will go back to your “preferences” but should that make or break your relationship?  We all have the same body parts and are physically able to experience the same amount of pleasure as the next man. Your penis and anus works just like his. The only differences are the thoughts we put behind doing these acts. We are GAY men and a part of that is being fortunate enough to experience many more dynamics of sex than our heterosexual counterparts. Why limit yourself to what you have mentally decided is your role?

For example: Many strict tops can’t allow themselves to be vulnerable enough to submit and “receive” their partner physically.  There are so many stigma’s surrounding being penetrated that sometimes we allow that to get in our heads and ruin what could be an incredible experience. All the tension and resistance a top’s body feels when attempting to be penetrated originates from their head, not their ass. You will still be a man when it’s all said and done with, so why not just let go and enjoy each other’s entire body, not just what you perceive to be your roles.  In fact, I’d venture to say it takes more of a man to receive than it does to give.  Anyone can stick their dick in a hole, but to be able to completely submit yourself to the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE and walk away knowing you are still a man says a lot about your level of security with your masculinity.

This does not only apply to strict tops but strict bottoms as well.  Their dick works just like everyone else’s. The only difference is, again, what they are experiencing mentally. I’ve heard many men who are bottoms, say that it turns them off for their man to want to be penetrated. Why? He’s gay. Could it be these bottoms have fantasies of being with a straight man?  Will they not see him as masculine anymore? Is it a fear of them not being “masculine” or dominant enough to get on top of a man?  If we would all just let go and just BE, we can all reach another level of sexual pleasure.  Get out of your head and your comfort zone, and enjoy each other to your full potential.

Now I’m not saying that strict TOP/BOTTOM roles in relationships cannot work, because they do all the time.  But what I am saying is if you meet someone that does not fit into your strict sexual roles, is it really a good reason to abandon the potential of what could be something amazing? Let’s also not forget that we are human and with that comes change. Our desires change and yes that can include sex. So what if your partner of 3 years decides that he no longer just wants to be limited to being penetrated or doing the penetrating. What then?  I say let go of your fears (let’s call it like it is) and experience LOVE to its full capacity. You may be surprised at the results. 

MICHAEL SAM AND VITO CAMMISANO START ENJOYING THE LIMELIGHT

After Michael Sam became the the first openly gay player to be drafted by the NFL, ESPN captured his emotionalreaction and when he gave a big ol' smooch to his boyfriend, Vito Cammisano. Of course, everyone wondered who was this mystery man who was locking lips with the 9th Most Powerful LGBT person in America (according to our sister site Out.com's Power List, anyway). 

It turns out, Cammisano and Sam both attended the University of Missouri, where Cammisano was on the swim team from 2009 to 2012, according to Sports Grid. The two Millenials certainly aren't camera shy: Check out thisphoto of Cammisano in action as a junior. The site also reports that the communications major came out three years ago and graduated in 2013.

After the photo of them kissing was quickly circulated around the world via social media, the two didn't stop. It seems they celebrated the occasion of the NFL draft pick at TAO Nightclub in Las Vegas Saturday night.

According to sources, a group of 10 — including his agent and friends — were on hand as Sam was surprised by a presentation from the club and a shout out from DJ Vice. He also spotted Richard Sherman of the NFL champion Seattle Seahawks at a neighboring table the two chatted for a few minutes.

The crowd at TAO later cheered as Sam and Cammisano danced and waved when Vice asked: “Do we have any Rams fans in the house?!” The couple returned to their table where they celebrated the historic day until 3 a.m., according to reliable sources.

SOURCE: GAY DOT NET

I WAS TOO BLIND TO SEE

How many times have you found yourself in a situation—a friendship, relationship, or dead-end job—that was no good for you?  Did you stay?  Even with all the tell-tale signs?  Or did you let it go?  Personally, I can say yes to all of these things.  One of my experiences dealt with a past relationship.  Looking back, I sometimes shudder thinking about where I was.  But in the same token, I’m grateful because that experience was crucial to bringing me forward.

For two-and-a-half years, I was in a frenetic, whirlwind of a relationship that took me on a journey from love and happiness to downright hatred and shame.  Like many relationships, it started out lovely.  We seemed like we were on the same page.  We were both working to establish our careers and build a life together.  I thought I’d finally found the one.

As the months went on, things started to shift.  I couldn’t make a move without being clocked.  He was blowing up my phone every waking minute we weren’t together.  Suddenly, he had a problem with my male friends.  He told me he didn’t want me hanging out with them anymore.  Mind you, these are friends I knew long before he came into my life.  I was taken aback.  Where was all this jealous, controlling and possessive foolishness coming from?  Did I acknowledge it as that then?  Subconsciously, yes.  Consciously, I was somewhere else.

Any time I confronted him with an issue, he would flip the script and make me out to be the bad guy.  Miraculously, he was the victim and I was out-of-my-mind crazy.  In the heat of the moment, I was “ugly,” “fat,” and ostensibly inadequate.  But all was good when I came to his rescue in times when his pleas for help were met with deaf ears and blind eyes from everyone else.  And we called this love?  Funny, so funny…

When I shared some of the things that transpired with my closest friends, they were saddened, angry, and upset.  They didn’t understand why I was I staying in a situation that was causing me so much pain.  They would constantly tell me that I could do better and that I deserved so much more I knew that.  But I obviously didn’t believe it.  I couldn’t bring myself to leave.  I was too afraid.  I lacked the courage.

Breaking up is never an easy thing to do.  I guess I felt an obligation to be there.  I thought if I stayed, maybe he would change.  Maybe our situation would improve.  But as time went on, nothing improved.  Emotionally, my needs (still) weren’t being met.  As my self-esteem degraded, I sank deeper and deeper into depression.

I woke up when I looked at myself and I no longer recognized who I was and why I allowed myself to be in the mess we called a “relationship.”  I realized that I’d lost myself.  It’s amazing what some of us will do for love.  Or what some of us will do for what we call “love.”  At that very moment, I knew that I had to move on.  I couldn’t play a role in exacerbating the pain, drama, and unhappiness any longer.  So we broke it off.  Slowly but surely, I began to find my way back to myself again.

Even in relationships, you have to look out for and honor yourself.  The longer you stay in any unhappy or unhealthy situation (be it a friendship, relationship, job, etc.), the more you deny your authentic self and your true feelings, needs, and desires.

Open your eyes.  Listen to that inner voice.  Take back your power and free yourself.  You’re worthy of so much more.

SOURCE: MUSED MAG