ASK YOURSELF
SOME QUESTIONS
The first step
is to understand how the friend zone functions. Because once you get to know
the mechanism, you’ll be able to figure out how to configure it to your own
liking. To start with, ask yourself how you ended up in the friend zone instead
of his bed. One of the reasons can be that you don’t have the know-how. Or
simply because you are too nice and/or shy and you don’t want to impose
yourself. But you also have to see the situation from his angle, because it’s
highly probable that his mind isn’t open to anything more right now. But with
patience and good strategy this can change…
DO NOT GET
CLINGY
Once you’ve
decided to be bold and fight for your love interest, it’s absolutely vital that
you don’t be all over him all of a sudden. This swift change of your attitude
may freak him out. Instead of showing your needy and suffocating Mr. Hyde
personality, be completely the opposite - a self-controlled and relaxed Dr.
Jekyll, who is just fine on his own, but would also love to have a roll in the
hay with him. Just give your friend a subtle hint that you are looking for
something more in your relationship, and leave it there. This move will
guarantee you his attention.
CALL HIM BY
HIS NAME
Between
yourselves, you call each other “girl” or whatever. First of all, just like
‘buddy’, ‘pal’, ‘dude’, ‘dawg’, and ‘punk’, the nicknames you’re using belong
to the friend zone you so desperately want to leave. Forget about them! They
may be accommodating and all, but they sound too impersonal and can’t make
anybody’s heart race. Use his full first name, no matter how uncomfortably long
it is - Nathaniel, Alexander, or Sawyer Ford.
CHANGE YOUR
ROUTINE
You usually
meet on Saturday nights in bars and clubs where you mingle with other gay
friends and acquaintances. Occasionally, you have drinks, go to the movies, and
play squash. If you want to have something more with your friend beside
cocktails and conversations about sitcoms and the weather, then you should
create a moment for intimacy and romance. Suggest that you take a trip
together, only the two of you. Leaving your familiar environment will provide
the perfect opportunity to see each other in a different light. And without
clothes, hopefully.
LET YOUR HANDS
DO THE JOB
Changing your
image fundamentally is not what you should be heading for. Subtle changes in
your behavior, though, are a must. Touch your friend whenever the situation
allows it. Ruffle his hair, lean on his shoulder when getting up from the
chair, brush a non-existent eye-lash from his cheek… He should be able to sense
that your attitude towards him has changed, and if he’s on the same wavelength
as you, eventually he’ll open up and literally embrace your new you.
FLIRT WITH
OTHER GUYS
This advice
may sound strange and completely irrelevant given the topic of discussion, but
it’s, in fact, an excellent strategic move. Have you thought that maybe your
friend doesn’t see you as a boyfriend or lover material because he’s never seen
you in your seductive mode? That’s why, you should play the field a bit, show
him that you’re interested in other men. And, unlike him, these men are not the
type you want to befriend.
WHAT IF…
What if he’s
taken? Well, that’s a tough one, and yet, not the end of the world situation.
What we recommend in such case is to patiently wait for your turn. Keep the
positive attitude and convince yourself that their relationship sooner or later
will unravel. And when it happens, your friend will turn to you for comfort and
support. And that, my friend, will be your star moment.
SOURCE: ANDREW CHRISTIAN
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