
And whatâs one
of the ways you know youâre really free? Youâre having hot sex
during pride month.
Itâs not the
same as at-home sex, no, no, no! This sex is
that toe-curling, leisurely kind of sex, where you donât have to worry about
alarms or deadlines and can just relax and let yourself go.
Iâve been
thinking about this more now as weâre half way through the celebrations
and Iâve come to the conclusion that weâve been
really overthinking this whole thing. Itâs way easier to achieve than we think.
Itâs not about
going to pride celebrations all year long. Itâs about the mindset that gets you in the mood. Which means⊠you can
make some easy (free) tweaks to your home sex routine.
Itâs a
misconception that the sex appeal of sex comes from being in a
particular locale. In my opinion, the same energy can
be achieved if we rethink sex as a state of mind, rather than
location-dependent.
And whatâs the
biggest mindset? Relaxing. Think about it: when youâre out
celebrating, you naturally feel less inclined to focus
on daily stressors.
So, if you
want to incorporate those sex vibes in
your bed, the first step is to relax into the moment. Mindfulness techniques
like meditation and deep breathing are great for this.
One of my favorite
ways to enter a tranquil state is to get wet, aka drawing a bath or getting
into the shower. As we go through the routine of washing ourselves or laying in
soothing bathwater â focusing our thoughts on the feelings weâre experiencing,
and incorporating all five senses â the motion can get our whole body to agree
itâs calming time.
Doing this can
take away all the distraction, stress, and preoccupation that can make sex feel
like a to-do list.
Another big
component of sex during this month?
Youâre more open-minded.
Maybe itâs
because youâre in a location thatâs temporary, or far from your daily life, but
thereâs something about this time that gives people the courage to try
new things that seem out of place at home.
To me, being
open-minded translates because we expand what
âsex,â âpleasure,â or even sexual goals look like can be the key to
transforming the kind of sex youâre having to the kind that you want to
be having.
Think about
the things that turn you on. What about them is so arousing and appealing to
you? Even if you donât play out the exact acts in bed, you can still embody the
mindsets or elements of it in your life.
Trying new
things can be intimidating because of one thing: weâre afraid of messing up and
getting things wrong.
But the key to
really enjoying experimental sex is giving yourself permission be okay with
things going awry.
Even if things
donât go exactly how you planned â the position is too advanced for you, things
rub the wrong way, or it just doesnât get you off â thatâs okay. Itâs not a
failure; itâs an opportunity to try something new and give you more information
about what you do like.
Pride month is so tied to a specific mindset that is relaxed and way more forgiving.
So, carrying that state of mind into sex gets you a lot closer to having
vacation sex than other things might.
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