I am whatever YOU think I am until YOU get to KNOW me. This is true for everyone else too, of course.. so don't make assumptions about anyone or pass judgment; ask questions. You might just make a new friend.
A recipe for ‘hurting love’ is to give where it’s rotating between ‘nothing and everything’. Few people have met themselves yet, but look to meet another who hasn't either. Two people who haven’t risen in inner love with themselves and finding each other, is a train wreck waiting to happen. Not loving yourself, and wanting it from another is an example of love’s greed that doesn't give back. Love is a fussy thing when it comes to wanting all or nothing, but is often caught between agony and pleasure.
Anyone divided against themselves is not going to find the ‘love glue’ from another, who is likely another ‘broken wing of love’. Love in it’s chameleon form of changing with the winds of alternating moods, is nothing but a chaotic mixture for pleasure and pain never ending. Most are not raised with the warm love that is needed for inner happiness, but ‘love mixed with hidden unresolved parents issues’. Leaving the ‘nest of childhood’ is an opportunity to fill in the cracks for an even stronger, loving you, but ego keeps one from seeing the picture that is, and can be.