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Monday, December 12, 2011

ONLINE DATING: NO FATS, FEMMES OR...





It's been seven years since I was last single, and a lot
has changed since then. I'm no longer a cute twink, but I am still young at 29;
in fact, I feel like I've grown into my looks and I'm more confident than ever
before. But going out as a single guy is a lot different now—and not just
because it's somewhat strange having younger guys look at me like I'm an
"older man."







When I was single in my early
twenties I would go out with friends, we'd meet new people, flirt, and if we
were lucky get a phone number. If you didn't get a number and were still
feeling frisky when you got home, then you might jump online and hit a couple
chat rooms (or just pull out your favorite DVD for some quality alone time).
Now it's like that flirting game is gone. Guys hit the bars with friends to
hang out, not necessarily to meet other people. And you can't usually talk to
them because they're glued to their phones, faces shining in a ghostly light as
they use mobile apps to see who's nearby and looking to hook up. It was a
little annoying at first, but if that's the way things were now, and I was
single, then I figured I needed to join the new gay digital age.


"No Fats, Femmes, or
Faggots," one profile requested. I ran my finger over my phone's screen to
slide the image up and down for a second, just to confirm that my eyes weren't
playing tricks on me.


"Tired of flaky queens. Looking
for something deeper," one earnestly stated. Then the person added,
"Must live in the city, have a job, and be 29-35."


"U in shape, hot, bottom?"
asked another. "Great! If not, C ya."


"No Asians!" a third read.
"Don't even waste my time."


Online profiles have always been
specific, with guys making it very clear what type of man they're looking for
while at the same time describing themselves for the reader in (hopefully)
honest terms. Similar cruel or ugly conditions could often be found when I was
single as well, but back then there was an emotional and physical distance;
this person was at home, maybe not even in your city, so it was easier to brush
him off as a jerk with issues. Today the man could be in the room with you—his
face photo may even be present on that app—and he's perfectly fine letting you
know that he's "not into nelly rice queens looking for a daddy."
(Yes, that's an actual quote.)




Nevertheless, I searched around and
found a handsome guy who didn't have all that garbage on his profile. I sent
him a text and this was our exchange:


 HIM:
Hey. How old?


ME: 29


HIM: Really? You look older.


ME: Yep. Real age, real photo.


HIM: Did you read my profile?


ME: Yeah. You read mine?


HIM: I'm only into ripped guys. Sorry. You got a better pic you can send?


Here's the worst part: I told him to
hang on and started scrolling through my phone to see if I had a hotter photo
than what I was using for my profile. For whatever reason I wanted this guy to
like me, be interested in me. I wanted a shirtless one, something that showed
him just how sexy I felt about myself, and after asking him to hold on for a
minute I found one and sent it off. Then I got this reply: "Thanks
anyway."


As I read those two words I wondered
what was wrong with us gay people. We complain that the only images
representing gay men are of sexy studs with ripped muscles, and yet that's the
guy we demand when we're supposedly looking for love online. We don't have the
balls to meet one another face-to-face, but we can flippantly brush aside
another human being simply because of his photo, his hairline, his ethnicity,
or because his profile sounds too boring, bitchy or slutty. We've all done it
to some extent, myself included, and we make the excuse that we don't want to
waste our time, that we're just being honest, and yet we're forgetting that
there is a real person on the other end of this conversation and our ugly words
can really screw with someone's self esteem. Is it any surprise, that so many
of us throw up a bitchy shield so that we can protect our own egos while
simultaneously preparing ourselves to knock down the next guy who may take a
swipe at us?


If we ever want to get away from
"flaky gays" and experience real, meaningful relationships, then
perhaps it's time to grow up and start giving each other the respect we want
for ourselves—both online and in the real world.


SOURCE: GAY DOT NET

MONDAY MUSICAL MOTIVATION: GOOD FEELING








Rapper Flo Rida has selected the Dr
Luke and Avicii co-produced "Good Feeling" as the official lead
single from his fourth studio album "Only 1 Rida (Part 2)" - The
party-ready tune contains a sample of the legendary diva Etta James' "Something's
Got a Hold on Me" classic. Wow, that sample takes the song's vibe to a
whole new level, Dr Luke and Avicii's production is flawless, and the
semi-dubstep break was hot too. Flo Rida's arsenal of catchy songs is just
endless!















[Etta James]
Oh, sometimes I get
a good feeling, yeah

I get a feeling
that I never never never never had before, no no

I get a good
feeling, yeah

Oh, sometimes I get
a good feeling, yeah

I get a feeling
that I never never never never had before, no no

I get a good feeling,
yeah


[Flo Rida]
Yes I can, doubt
that I leave, I'm running with this plan

Pull me, grab me,
crabs in the bucket can’t have me

I’ll be the
president one day

January first, oh,
you like that gossip

Like you the one
drinking that god sip dot com

Now I gotta work
with your tongue

How many rolling
stones you want

Yeah I got a brand
new spirit,

Speak it and it’s
done

Woke up on the side
of the bed like I won

Talk like a winner,
my chest to that sub

G5 dealer, US to
Taiwan

I hope you say
that, I wanna play back

Mama knew I was a
needle in a hay stack

A bugatti boy, plus
maybach

I got a feeling
it’s a wrap asap


[Etta James]
Oh, sometimes I get
a good feeling, yeah

I get a feeling
that I never never never never had before, no no

I get a good feeling, yeah

Oh, sometimes I get
a good feeling, yeah

I get a feeling
that I never never never never had before, no no

I get a good
feeling, yeah


[Flo Rida]
The mountain top,
walk on water

I got power, feel
so royal

One second, I’ma
strike oil

Diamond, platinum,
no more you

Gotta drill a land,
never giving in

Giving up’s not an
option, gotta get it in

Witness I got a
heart of 20 men

No fear go to sleep
in the lion’s den

That flow, that
funk that crown

You looking at the
king of the jungle now

Stronger ever can’t
hold me down

A hundred miles
going from the picture smile

Straight game face,
it’s game day

See me running
through the crowd full of melee

No trick plays, I’m
Bill Gates, take a genious to understand me


[Etta James]
Oh, sometimes I get
a good feeling, yeah

I get a feeling
that I never never never never had before, no no

I get a good
feeling, yeah

Oh, sometimes I get
a good feeling, yeah

I get a feeling
that I never never never never had before, no no

I get a good
feeling, yeah






Flo Rida Good Feeling lyrics found on DIRECTLYRICS


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