I AM...

I am whatever YOU think I am until YOU get to KNOW me. This is true for everyone else too, of course.. so don't make assumptions about anyone or pass judgment; ask questions. You might just make a new friend.


Tuesday, November 29, 2011


Ah, the Sugar Daddy. For straight men
this role is taken for granted: You have a hot girlfriend because you’re
loaded? But if a gay couple’s ages vary by 10 years or more, others will let
the barbs fly without hesitation. Yes, few men are as scorned as the Sugar
Daddy, which is ironic because intergenerational love among gays is not

Youth and beauty are qualities women
are typically judged on, while men trade on their economic status. Thus,
traditionally, heterosexual men and women each know where they stand in the
dating game. But in the gay world, youth, beauty and economic status often
intermingle, so it becomes particularly difficult for some gay men to not only
understand their position in a relationship, but also to refrain from judging,
making assumptions or growing defensive when labels such as “Daddy” are thrown around.

DADDY, one simple word that provokes a variety of responses; but why?

 the center of
pathology is the individual's inability to control the self. One of the amazing
things about the human mind when one looks at it from the point of view of the
so-called unconscious, is that the individual who does not know himself and does
not know reality, is the individual who escapes from self-knowledge, is an
individual who does not know the roots and bases of his actions. 

 He is an individual who seems to be determined by external forces (or by internal forces) of which he has little or no knowledge. He is often constantly puzzled by his own behavior. He is often a wonderment to himself. He struggles against impulses, desires and wishes over which he has little or no control because he has, in his escape from self-knowing and reality, conceded his self-control and given it over to someone else. 

In releasing his identity and permitting another
to place an identity within his psyche, he has at the same time placed in the
hands of that other the ability to control his behavior."


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