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Friday, October 17, 2008

¿IS THE GAY "PERCEPTION" REAL?





There are a
number of GAY men who are doing
everyday things going everywhere, but the world act as if they don’t
exist. We live in a world where EVERYONE
is DIFFERENT, yet if a GAY man is NOT an activist OR openly gay he is thought of as an
anomaly OR a glitch in the PERCEIVED GAY FORMULA. BUT IS THIS THE
CASE?
Not every GAY man has to
let the world know that he is into men NOR
does he have to hide who he is. I get that in order for us to get some sort of
understanding about who OR what the
gay man is, there has to be an idea of who he is. Hence the problem because the
“PERCEPTION” is that ALL gay men are effeminate AND unmanly. But is it rational OR fair to put restrictions on a GAY man’s manhood because society feels
that there are certain lines men shouldn’t cross? How can one put the notion
out there that is OKAY to be GAY as long your manhood isn’t in
question? Something like this affects the GAY
man’s ability to express himself freely without fear of being referred to in
derogatory terms. And why shouldn’t he? An effeminate man is considered as
someone that lacks courage AND
strength which are the things that is said that a man needs. So I ask again, IS THE GAY PERCEPTION REAL? I SAY NO! I
say this because there are MANY GAY men hiding in plain sight that does
fit perceived mold. I guess that is all fine AND dandy because would a masculine “PERCEPTION” have a POSITIVE
impact on the gay community? I say that masculinity AND femininity are real they're just shorthand for features we pick
out with language. Hence NO one's
sexual orientation OR identification
is a stake. The only thing @ stake is some “IDEALIZATION”
about characteristics picked out by language which are NOTHING more than linguistic markers. So how about some clarity? A
man is a man NO matter how what one
may see OR feel he is about. The “PERCEPTION” is how some GAY men exaggerate a performance of one
gender and apply it to the other. The thing is that this atypical feature
shouldn’t be seen as something typical because it is NO way shape OR form
close to what being GAY is all about.
I mean what significance can come from a man expressing himself in a typical
feminine fashion? There is NOTHING
typical about being gay. We're homosexuals, because that word says that we are attracted
to the same sex. So in trying to DISSOCIATE
sexual identity from gender identity is a tricky and an unfruitful task. They
both depend on each other and are parallel…SO
WHEN IT COMES TO THE GAY “PERCEPTION” IT
IS IMPORTANT FOR US NOT BE NAÏVE ABOUT THE CONSEQUENCES OF THE LABELS THAT IS
APPLIED TO HOMOSEXUALS. MOREOVER, WE DO OURSELVES HARM BY TRYING TO IGNORE THE
IMPLICATIONS OF THIS & DOING THIS IS LIKE TRYING TO IGNORE GRAVITY. THE “PERCEPTION”
IS WAY OFF THE MARK BECAUSE GAY MEN & WOMEN ARE REAL PEOPLE WITH REAL, DEEP
& ABIDING EMOTIONS ROOTED IN SHAME N’ FEAR ALL BECAUSE OF THE NOTIONS WHAT
THEY THINK WE ARE. I DON’T KNOW HOW SOCIETY EXPECTS TO UNDERSTAND US IF THEY
DON’T UNDERSTAND THEMSELVES…MAKES ONE WONDER IF THE “STRAIGHT” PERCEPTION IS
REAL BECAUSE THEY WORK SO HARD TO ENSURE THAT WE DON’T GO AROUND MASQUERADING
LIKE THEM…

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