I AM...

I am whatever YOU think I am until YOU get to KNOW me. This is true for everyone else too, of course.. so don't make assumptions about anyone or pass judgment; ask questions. You might just make a new friend.


Monday, February 25, 2008


I have been SINGLE for about 3 years and I have met NOT just someone, but the ONE that intend on my spending my life with. Now the thing about it is that I have always thought that relationships of this kind normally involves just two individuals; BOY WAS I WRONG! It would appear that from the moment that I told others about my budding relationship that I have been met with feelings of lament AND bewilderment. Being single for as long as I was, I thought that if there was ANYONE out there that was interested in me that they would have said so by now…and now you all over me like a pack of wolves. THE I LOVE YOU’S, SEXUAL COMMENTS & THE FLIRTING will NOT deter me from the man I am with. I know that the logical thing to do is to NOT allow you to become more important than you really are, but I just feel that this needs to written. The FANTASY relationship that you DREAM of have has NO foundation AND your reality is a MERE illusion. Hence I will NOT internalize my feelings in capitulation AND shrug you off with the simple CLICHÉ that you are a good person. You are HUMAN, YES! But accept the FACT that you AND I will NOT be what you feel we should! SO BE WARNED! The alarm has been rung AND if you trespass the integrity of my relationship, you will NOT warned via this medium. I AM NOT FAIR GAME & I DO NOT LOVE IN THE DARK! I GUESS BOYS WILL BE BOY…WHICH PRESENTS THE PROBLEM THAT WE GAY MEN ARE HAVING IN THIS COMMUNITY. FOR FAR TOO LONG WE HAVE BEEN LIVING OUR LIVES AS LITTLE BOYS THAT ARE JUST PLAYING & NOT LIVING. IT IS SAD THAT WE LIVE IN A CULTURE IN WHICH GAY COUPLES CANNOT ASSUME THAT THE BOUNDARIES OF THEIR RELATIONSHIP WILL BE RESPECTED or UNDERSTOOD. THIS SHOWS THAT WE DO NOT HAVE A COMMON ASSUMPTION ABOUT WHAT IT TRULY MEANS TO BE GAY. SO MANY OF US SIMPLY ASSUME THAT IT IS ALRIGHT TO HIT ON ANY GAY MAN, SINGLE or OTHERWISE. THIS UNFINISHED BUSINESS OF OWNING OUR SEXUALITY NEEDS TO BE TAKEN CARE IMMEDIATELY, FOR THIS IS THE ONLY WAY WE CAN RADICALLY RESPECT OURSELVES & THOSE OF US THAT ARE IN COMMITTED RELATIONSHIPS.


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